I challenged myself. I completed a masters program. I traveled solo by bike through Europe. I competed in the pro division of an XC mountain bike race. I moved to a new place. I read many books. I wrote hundreds of thousands of words. I met amazing people. I prioritized my mental and physical health. I learned more about what I’m capable of. I leaned on friends, new and old, to get me through. And I continue to be grateful for—and humbled by—their love and support.
With the help of friends and family (and a skilled psychologist in NYC, whom I speak with biweekly), I took some steps in identifying and appreciating the intrinsic value that I bring to the world, and to others. Values like honesty, vulnerability, determination, humility, loyalty, optimism, and kindness. Actions like showing up for those around me, expressing love for them, listening, being a good example, praising and appreciating their strengths, expressing gratitude, reminding them how much they mean to me.
I discovered a new approach to fear. That for me, fear is often a sign that I’m doing something that is important. Something that I need to do. That pain is often necessary for growth. And rather than running from it, I’ve practiced living in that moment. In the pain. Noticing it. Channeling this energy into positive habits, work, and projects that I hope will educate and inspire others. I put a lot of energy into things I cannot control, and am making progress in learning to let go.
I was reminded that we are the company we choose to keep. That as I’ve grown, I’ve grown closer to those who know that life is a process. Closer to the courageous who face the challenges of their past lives. The selfless and the compassionate who consider how their actions effect others. The introspective and the determined who strive to learn and be better with each passing day. Who understand that change is inevitable, the only constant. I’ve grown closer to the friends who love me through every stage of my life, just as I have loved them through every stage of theirs.
I listened and I learned. I traveled many miles, spent a lot of time in solitude, made tough decisions, and learned how to set boundaries. I extended my hand, I offered my love, I gave others a chance. I put my heart into all of it. I did the best I could. And in 2024, I will be the better for it.
Happy new year to you and yours. Thank you for reading this, and thank you for making this time and this world such an amazing place to inhabit. In the words of a dear friend:
“I love that I get to know you at this stage in your life.”
Here’s to a more peaceful, caring, and compassionate 2024. I believe in us. ❤️
-trav