I came across a Reddit post recently in the r/AskMenAdvice sub regarding vulnerability in relationships. The OP posed the question: help me understand the fear that someone will use your vulnerability against you. How does someone hurt you if you share personal feelings or vulnerable info? Several male redditors chimed in detailing accounts with their … Read More
self help
Pennebaker writing protocol and effects on well-being
I caught a recent Andrew Huberman podcast detailing a writing protocol found to influence long-term outcomes in health and short-term indicators of physiological arousal and reports of negative moods, first introduced by Pennebaker, J. W., & Beall, S. K. (1986). Pennebaker et al. found that writing about traumatic or even trivial events can have therapeutic … Read More
The Concept of Repair with Becky Kennedy
A 2023 TED talk from clinical psychologist Becky Kennedy hit my YouTube algorithm this morning. I found the concept of “repair” interesting in the context of parenting, as her talk is rooted, but also in the context of adult-adult relationships. I’ve always struggled to name this idea of repair as Kennedy describes it, typically naming … Read More
Brianna Wiest and Letting Go
Brianna is a great writer. Looking back, I’m fortunate to have kept most of my friends. I’ve only received one “you’ve changed” and one “you’re almost there,” both in negative contexts, both implying that I don’t fit some ideal, of sufficiency or perfection. Memories that are vivid in my mind. But by practicing the values … Read More
2023 Review
I challenged myself. I completed a masters program. I traveled solo by bike through Europe. I competed in the pro division of an XC mountain bike race. I moved to a new place. I read many books. I wrote hundreds of thousands of words. I met amazing people. I prioritized my mental and physical health. … Read More
Disappointing affirmations
Disappointing Affirmations is a popular instagram handle that pairs the comedy of sarcastic affirmations, a parody of the current trend in wellness content, against the beauty of nature and landscape photos. There is an overwhelming amount of wellness content out there. Assuredly, people are becoming fatigued by it. The verdict is out on whether practicing … Read More
Impermanence
A few thoughts on the topic of impermanence. Nature’s first green is gold,Her hardest hue to hold.Her early leaf’s a flower;But only so an hour.Then leaf subsides to leaf.So Eden sank to grief,So dawn goes down to day.Nothing gold can stay. — Robert Frost Life is always changing, always evolving. Anyone who has lost something … Read More
FOMO, Hedonic Treadmill, Process vs. outcomes
FOMO, or “fear of missing out”, was the subject of my guided meditation this morning. FOMO could be a leading cause to the teen mental health crisis we’re seeing. The verdict is still out on that, but many millennials and younger generations are taking note, and are actively switching off social media in an attempt … Read More
Invaluable Commodities
Some people are kind or present only as far you are useful to them. Choose wisely those you surround yourself with. Your time, heart, and mind are invaluable commodities. ❤️🧠😊👍🏼
Lobha
Lobha, a Pāli word for “craving,” or “greed”. Our world revolves around wanting. This tendency to crave affects our relationships. There’s a distinction between love and wanting, or grasping. We’re all capable of love in its true sense. When we allow our friends and loved ones to be who they are, this is love. When … Read More
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