My therapist recently tossed me a hypothetical. Picture this: You’re walking down the street. On the corner stands a man—just standing there, minding his business. Out of nowhere, another guy walks up and kicks him. Hard. No warning, no reason. Now, she asked me, do you feel angry for the man who got kicked? I … Read More
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Home
When I left New York in the spring of 2023, I packed the last of my things into the car and stood in the middle of my tiny one-bedroom apartment in Brooklyn, vacuum humming in my hand. It was the final step—cleaning the last traces of my existence from that space. As I shut off … Read More
We are who we choose to be
We are what we watch. We are what we listen to. We are what we speak. We are who we spend our time with. We are what we eat. We are what we believe. We are our devices, our instruments. We are our homes. We are the places we frequent. We are what we practice. … Read More
Stuck
If you want to do something that you’re passionate about, but you find yourself stuck in a cycle of uncertainty… Practice the process of taking one small step in the direction of your passion. Considering all the possible outcomes–plausibile and implausible–has a way of immobilizing us. And the time spent being stuck is time you … Read More
The world’s opinion
Quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson from Society and Solitude, published in 1870.
on feeling optimistic again
I came across a post in the r/self Reddit community that inspired me to write today. The OP, a 40 year old male, wrote that he had visited a college with his young daughter recently, and the experience had made him feel sadness. The idea that the beautiful and hopeful experience that is being a … Read More
Moonshots
We often start with the easy stuff. It feels productive—small wins, minimal risk, a sense of momentum—but in reality, it could be a distraction from tackling the harder challenges. As Astro Teller, Director of X (a Google company), said on Simon Sinek’s podcast, A Bit of Optimism, most people solve the easiest problems first because … Read More
Why we love hero stories
Hero stories are everywhere—movies, books, news headlines, even social media. Whether it’s a fearless leader changing history or a viral video of someone stepping up for a stranger, our culture is obsessed with tales of extraordinary people doing extraordinary things. They capture our attention, stick in our minds, and keep us coming back for more. … Read More
Growth vs. fixed mindset
Growth mindset is the ability to see opportunity in struggle, to learn from experiences, to adapt to changing circumstances. Less emphasis is placed on outcomes, more emphasis on process. Growth mindset assumes the principle of impermanence, that much like life itself, experiences do not occur in perpetuity, but last for only a limited period of … Read More
Pick something and ‘send it’
Just left a doctor‘s office and the physician’s assistant was a young undergrad unsure about what he wanted to do with his career. My advice: pick anything, literally anything you’re interested in. Work your ass off for 2-3 years, and reassess. If you are fulfilled by it, if it gives you purpose, keep going. If … Read More
Thoughts on Resistance
Resistance is experienced as fear; the degree of fear equates to the strength of Resistance. Therefore the more fear we feel about a specific enterprise, the more certain we can be that that enterprise is important to us and to the growth of our soul. That’s why we feel so much Resistance. If it meant … Read More
Brianna Wiest and Letting Go
Brianna is a great writer. Looking back, I’m fortunate to have kept most of my friends. I’ve only received one “you’ve changed” and one “you’re almost there,” both in negative contexts, both implying that I don’t fit some ideal, of sufficiency or perfection. Memories that are vivid in my mind. But by practicing the values … Read More
2023 Review
I challenged myself. I completed a masters program. I traveled solo by bike through Europe. I competed in the pro division of an XC mountain bike race. I moved to a new place. I read many books. I wrote hundreds of thousands of words. I met amazing people. I prioritized my mental and physical health. … Read More
Disappointing affirmations
Disappointing Affirmations is a popular instagram handle that pairs the comedy of sarcastic affirmations, a parody of the current trend in wellness content, against the beauty of nature and landscape photos. There is an overwhelming amount of wellness content out there. Assuredly, people are becoming fatigued by it. The verdict is out on whether practicing … Read More
Adam Grant creative filtering process
From the Huberman Lab podcast. On getting feedback for a new book concept, Adam suggested the following process: Other notes Visit Adam Grant’s site at: www.adamgrant.net Visit Andrew Huberman’s site at: www.hubermanlab.com
Impermanence
A few thoughts on the topic of impermanence. Nature’s first green is gold,Her hardest hue to hold.Her early leaf’s a flower;But only so an hour.Then leaf subsides to leaf.So Eden sank to grief,So dawn goes down to day.Nothing gold can stay. — Robert Frost Life is always changing, always evolving. Anyone who has lost something … Read More
FOMO, Hedonic Treadmill, Process vs. outcomes
FOMO, or “fear of missing out”, was the subject of my guided meditation this morning. FOMO could be a leading cause to the teen mental health crisis we’re seeing. The verdict is still out on that, but many millennials and younger generations are taking note, and are actively switching off social media in an attempt … Read More
Invaluable Commodities
Some people are kind or present only as far you are useful to them. Choose wisely those you surround yourself with. Your time, heart, and mind are invaluable commodities. ❤️🧠😊👍🏼
Lobha
Lobha, a Pāli word for “craving,” or “greed”. Our world revolves around wanting. This tendency to crave affects our relationships. There’s a distinction between love and wanting, or grasping. We’re all capable of love in its true sense. When we allow our friends and loved ones to be who they are, this is love. When … Read More
Accepting Uncertainty
Today my morning meditation centered around the idea of acceptance. The idea that we have three angles when approaching feelings. We can 1) accept them as they are, 2) change to adapt to these feelings, or 3) leave (or ignore) these feelings alone. I write often about anxiety, as it’s a feeling I’ve worked with … Read More