Resistance is experienced as fear; the degree of fear equates to the strength of Resistance. Therefore the more fear we feel about a specific enterprise, the more certain we can be that that enterprise is important to us and to the growth of our soul. That’s why we feel so much Resistance. If it meant … Read More
psychology
Vulnerability in relationships
I came across a Reddit post recently in the r/AskMenAdvice sub regarding vulnerability in relationships. The OP posed the question: help me understand the fear that someone will use your vulnerability against you. How does someone hurt you if you share personal feelings or vulnerable info? Several male redditors chimed in detailing accounts with their … Read More
The Sunday Flow: Re-watching old movies
Good Will Hunting, The Big Lebowski, Into the Wild, Jurassic Park, the Star Wars original trilogy, Indiana Jones, Midnight in Paris, Lost in Translation, Notting Hill… These are just a few of the films I’ve watched countless times. Films that bring comfort and peace of mind. Films from my childhood and films that helped me … Read More
Pennebaker writing protocol and effects on well-being
I caught a recent Andrew Huberman podcast detailing a writing protocol found to influence long-term outcomes in health and short-term indicators of physiological arousal and reports of negative moods, first introduced by Pennebaker, J. W., & Beall, S. K. (1986). Pennebaker et al. found that writing about traumatic or even trivial events can have therapeutic … Read More
The Concept of Repair with Becky Kennedy
A 2023 TED talk from clinical psychologist Becky Kennedy hit my YouTube algorithm this morning. I found the concept of “repair” interesting in the context of parenting, as her talk is rooted, but also in the context of adult-adult relationships. I’ve always struggled to name this idea of repair as Kennedy describes it, typically naming … Read More
2023 Review
I challenged myself. I completed a masters program. I traveled solo by bike through Europe. I competed in the pro division of an XC mountain bike race. I moved to a new place. I read many books. I wrote hundreds of thousands of words. I met amazing people. I prioritized my mental and physical health. … Read More
Disappointing affirmations
Disappointing Affirmations is a popular instagram handle that pairs the comedy of sarcastic affirmations, a parody of the current trend in wellness content, against the beauty of nature and landscape photos. There is an overwhelming amount of wellness content out there. Assuredly, people are becoming fatigued by it. The verdict is out on whether practicing … Read More
Adam Grant creative filtering process
From the Huberman Lab podcast. On getting feedback for a new book concept, Adam suggested the following process: Other notes Visit Adam Grant’s site at: www.adamgrant.net Visit Andrew Huberman’s site at: www.hubermanlab.com
FOMO, Hedonic Treadmill, Process vs. outcomes
FOMO, or “fear of missing out”, was the subject of my guided meditation this morning. FOMO could be a leading cause to the teen mental health crisis we’re seeing. The verdict is still out on that, but many millennials and younger generations are taking note, and are actively switching off social media in an attempt … Read More
Invaluable Commodities
Some people are kind or present only as far you are useful to them. Choose wisely those you surround yourself with. Your time, heart, and mind are invaluable commodities. ❤️🧠😊👍🏼
Research Proposal: Predicting and Reducing Impulse Behavior: Can biometric technology reduce impulse decisions, improve empathy, and reduce conflict?
When couples enter a conflict, their emotions can become escalated, often lending to self- protection and aggression, and even good partners can end up in intense fights that damage the relationship. Understanding this impulse, and learning how to calm down, to shift out of fight or flight mode, and connect, can help couples develop awareness, … Read More
Existential crisis
I don’t believe in the traditional narrative that an existential or midlife crisis means simply reaching a point where life isn’t as fulfilling as we had hoped. If this turning point is anything like anxiety, then the “crisis” occurs when we receive a totally natural, healthy signal for change, and get to choose how we … Read More
How are you doing?
I was browsing the news this morning and came across an article about the rising rate of burnout in the nursing profession. I thought of those who have taken up this profession and dedicate their lives to caring for us. I have family and friends who are nurses and am incredibly grateful for their commitment … Read More
Accepting Uncertainty
Today my morning meditation centered around the idea of acceptance. The idea that we have three angles when approaching feelings. We can 1) accept them as they are, 2) change to adapt to these feelings, or 3) leave (or ignore) these feelings alone. I write often about anxiety, as it’s a feeling I’ve worked with … Read More
Behavioral Science Will Save the World!
Last updated: June 12, 2021 | Let me begin by saying I’m not a qualified psychologist, neurobiologist, behaviorist, botanist, or any other “ist”. I’m a passionate student of the field, someone who at one time assumed that all humans behaved rationally, for the most part, and that all organizational policy was built upon solid evidence and … Read More
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